* In my case this is mostly about programming… it can also be problems I caused when writing (but then I’m only blaming someone else when it was a character’s fault… 🙂 )
Profound liberation for broken hearts:
“Accept that she isn’t the love of your life, because if she were, she’d still be in it.”
The Flash, Season 5, Episode 2
A life well lived will have failures.
If you do nothing in order to avoid failure, that’s a failure too…
Do you lie to yourself?
You probably do. We all do.
Do you know how to spot such a lie?
That may be a bit trickier, but there are four keywords you can be on the lookout for. When they rear their heads you know you’re lying to yourself.
The keywords are:
Whenever these words appear in things you say about yourself you can assume the statement isn’t true.
Statements such as, “nobody loves me,” or “I’ll never be able to get this right” are in almost all cases untrue.
Sure, you may in fact never get that advanced course in quantum physics right… but I refuse to believe anyone is unable to get anything right!
In a philosophical/logical sense, a statement like “nobody loves me” essentially requires that you know what every person in the whole world thinks about you, or doesn’t think about you…
The problem is that your unconscious seems to take these statements at face value, and if you can convince yourself that nobody loves you, your unconscious will start seeping misery into your life just because you were sloppy with words…
These keywords can also appear in things other people say about themselves or someone else. You can assume they are just not true in those cases as well.
When we make statements that can affect how we think about ourselves, such huge concepts as everybody, nobody, always and never, are best remodeled into something less enormous, or simply called out for being untrue!
What is a happy ending? Laughing yourself to death? Dying of a heroin overdose?
Why would anyone want that?
And if you use the more traditional interpretation: you live happily ever after… why would you think the world works like that?
Life only has one definite ending, and it’s probably not going to be happy.
So you need to make your own happiness… You need to be willing to endure short-term pain and suffering to achieve long(er) term happiness…
The Mind Fulfillment section, what is it about? Is it mindfulness? Is it self-help? Is it productivity? What?
I would say, it’s a bit of all of the above. With a bit of acceptance and values/commitment included.
Mind Fulfillment is acceptance, commitment, and productivity wrapped together to form a tool to make your life into what you want it to be.
That’s the short, slogany version.
The first step towards failure is believing failure is impossible.
The second step is believing failure is the only possible outcome.
One choice eliminates endless possibilities, that’s why choosing is so scary. As much as we’d like to postpone choices in order to keep our options open, abstaining from choosing is also making a choice, it’s usually a choice to give up control.
The right thing is not necessarily a good thing, sometimes it’s just the least bad alternative, and when you find yourself resorting to a lot of least bad alternatives you might want to stop and think about where your life is heading.