Category Archives: Mind Fulfillment

Mindfulness, acceptance, and productivity.

On Failure

Imagine a goal you wish to achieve. You see four different strategies to achieve this goal, but only one will be successful.

Given your knowledge and experience, you deem the likelihood of each of these strategies being the right one as equal.

The chance that you will pick the correct strategy on the first go is then 1/4 (or 25%), right?

Imagine that you start applying one of these strategies to the problem. Either you’ve picked the right one and you’re successful. Or, you’ve picked the wrong one and you’ve failed.

If you fail but get back to work on the problem again, you now have a 1/3 (or 33%) chance of success.

Your failure increased the chance of success.

Fail two more times and success is guaranteed…

If you fail, you’ve successfully found one way your problem cannot be solved.

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When clearing up a mess*, rather than thinking you’re a cleaner having to clean up someone else’s shit, think that you are Sherlock Holmes trying to solve a mystery.

* In my case this is mostly about programming… it can also be problems I caused when writing (but then I’m only blaming someone else when it was a character’s fault… šŸ™‚ )

Four keywords to spot a self-lie

Do you lie to yourself?

You probably do. We all do.

Do you know how to spot such a lie?

That may be a bit trickier, but there are four keywords you can be on the lookout for. When they rear their heads you know you’re lying to yourself.

The keywords are:

  • Everybody
  • Nobody
  • Always
  • Never

Whenever these words appear in things you say about yourself you can assume the statement isn’t true.

Statements such as, “nobody loves me,” or “I’ll never be able to get this right” are in almost all cases untrue.

Sure, you may in fact never get that advanced course in quantum physics right… but I refuse to believe anyone is unable to get anything right!

In a philosophical/logical sense, a statement like “nobody loves me” essentially requires that you know what every person in the whole world thinks about you, or doesn’t think about you…

The problem is that your unconscious seems to take these statements at face value, and if you can convince yourself that nobody loves you, your unconscious will start seeping misery into your life just because you were sloppy with words…

These keywords can also appear in things other people say about themselves or someone else. You can assume they are just not true in those cases as well.

When we make statementsĀ that can affect how we think about ourselves, such huge concepts as everybody, nobody, always and never, are best remodeled into something less enormous, or simply called out for being untrue!