A life well lived will have failures.
If you do nothing in order to avoid failure, that’s a failure too…
Do you lie to yourself?
You probably do. We all do.
Do you know how to spot such a lie?
That may be a bit trickier, but there are four keywords you can be on the lookout for. When they rear their heads you know you’re lying to yourself.
The keywords are:
Whenever these words appear in things you say about yourself you can assume the statement isn’t true.
Statements such as, “nobody loves me,” or “I’ll never be able to get this right” are in almost all cases untrue.
Sure, you may in fact never get that advanced course in quantum physics right… but I refuse to believe anyone is unable to get anything right!
In a philosophical/logical sense, a statement like “nobody loves me” essentially requires that you know what every person in the whole world thinks about you, or doesn’t think about you…
The problem is that your unconscious seems to take these statements at face value, and if you can convince yourself that nobody loves you, your unconscious will start seeping misery into your life just because you were sloppy with words…
These keywords can also appear in things other people say about themselves or someone else. You can assume they are just not true in those cases as well.
When we make statements that can affect how we think about ourselves, such huge concepts as everybody, nobody, always and never, are best remodeled into something less enormous, or simply called out for being untrue!
The first step towards failure is believing failure is impossible.
The second step is believing failure is the only possible outcome.
One choice eliminates endless possibilities, that’s why choosing is so scary. As much as we’d like to postpone choices in order to keep our options open, abstaining from choosing is also making a choice, it’s usually a choice to give up control.
The right thing is not necessarily a good thing, sometimes it’s just the least bad alternative, and when you find yourself resorting to a lot of least bad alternatives you might want to stop and think about where your life is heading.
“When the other person isn’t there, sometimes we tend to make up their side of the conversation, which truly isn’t fair to either one of you…”
/Pretty Little Liars